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Human Relations – 2
Every one has 3-distinct personalities as follows …
1. What you think you are! This is in the “Emotional plane of existence”. You think you are a son, daughter, brother, sister, father, mother, friend, citizen of a country etc. This is the basic beingness –or- your own self identity. This is full of personal relationships. This has both positive and negative aspects to it. You can feel happy / unhappy with your having such good / bad relationships. You are so contented and / or even so proud of these good relationships – you feel you need to do nothing more in your life at all – leading to a “Thamasic” (lazy / inertia) way of living. You are either quite wanted or hardly wanted or not wanted by others – depending on your exhibiting positive or negative traits of emotional existence.
2. What others think you are! This is normally the “Material plane of existence”. Mostly people identify you by your physical body and looks (appearance such as … handsome – beautiful – normal – average – ugly), as also your ownerships and possessions of property such as – Estates & Land, Cars, Bungalows and Jewelry etc –OR- your position and power. Here your importance is attributed to your positions & possessions – not You! You are as great as your possessions are valued by others! This comes from havingness – ie- your own sense of ownership over material wealth and power and the influence you can project. This is the result of “Rajasic” (high energy low moral output) way of living. You are definitely wanted in most places – as “material” attracts commoners.
3. What actually You are! This is the “Action plane of existence”. This is the actual doingness. You are assessed and then perceived by others by seeing your demonstrative actions –ie- what you actually do, than what you materially possess or think of yourself. Your rational / irrational actions prove beyond any doubt what you actually are. Your actions will prove if you are a kind & compassionate person -OR- a psychotic & neurotic person. Your actions will prove whether you are creative & constructive –OR- purely destructive. When all your actions prove you to be a kind, compassionate, rational, constructive person – you are a “Satthvic” person. You are needed & wanted everywhere!
Human relations are multilateral permutations & combinations of the above stated factors 1-2-3. Most of the humans have all the 3-traits in varying proportions. Their relationships with others will vary accordingly.
Human Relations
What is a relationship? At the basic level, it is a “connection” by means of which some communication and exchange takes place. Generally, it is between two or more living entities. For example – it can be between two or more humans like friends & couples or between humans and animals – like a man and his dog.
The “connection” can be founded strongly in any of the 3-planes –viz- physical, mental or spiritual. The existence of any “connection” between individuals is seen by some direct flow of “energy” between or among them. These energy flows can be in many forms – through the 5-sensory perceptions (sight, sound, smell, taste & touch) coupled with some physical action associated with it. For example, the man pats and fondles his dog. The dog reciprocates by smelling & licking him.
The basic foundation for all expressions in a relationship is also through the 5-senses for even emotional and intellectual exchanges. After all, intelligence is nothing but the judicious application of the data perceived, collected though the 5-senses for one’s own personal use, survival & pleasure.
When the connection and the main expressions of communications are governed primarily by physicality only – it is considered ordinary, normal or basic. This kind of relationship mostly exists among the plants & animals – or between humans with plants and animals. Can there be communication between humans and plants? Yes! Seeding, watering, growing, tending and harvesting is all part of human side of communication – while giving flowers, fruits and grains etc is part of plant side of communication. The relationship becomes so simple with animals and plants – as the basis is more physical than anything else – and also because what to give and what to expect back in the exchange are very clear on both sides in the beginning and end … always.
Relationship between or among humans gets very complicated because it is not free flowing exchange of simple material products – but gets into rigid definitions and conditionalities. Human relations get governed more by what we know and call to be “feelings” which are non physical. What is given and expected back are not fixed nor pre-defined – like with plants and animals. They are not fixed either qualitatively or quantitatively. The variations can be between zero to infinity. This realm is more mental than physical –ie- emotional & intellectual.
Human relationship is governed by three fundamental factors … ARC … Affinity – Reality – Communication. Communication creates common realities. Common realities create affinity. Affinity is the degree of liking – ie- the desire for proximity, both physical and mental. Thus ARC represents what we generally call “Understanding”. Higher the ARC – higher will be the understanding … stronger will be the relationship and bond.
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